Ricki Lake and Christian Evans in 2012
Ricki Lake did an interview with PeopleTV’s Chatter. She talked a lot about her late ex husband, Christian Evans, who died by suicide in February, 2017. Ricki had filed for divorce from Christian in 2014 after two years of marriage but she had an on-off relationship with him, considered him the love of her life, and was hoping to “save” him (her words). This came up when she was asked “What’s one thing you would like to experience for the first time over again?” She talked about love, and about her relationship with Christian, as if it was a one off and she’ll never find it again. I ended up feeling so sorry for her! You can watch the video clip on People’s site and here’s what she said:
I found true love with my husband who passed so I’m hoping to find love again. I don’t think I will. I’m open to it, but I think what I had — I was so lucky to have found that, it’s what everybody wants in life. I had true, unconditional love so I’d like to have something along those lines again, but again I feel like lightning doesn’t strike twice. I’m open to it, but I had the real deal. I just didn’t have it as long as I wanted it.
He had a lot of self-esteem issues and a lot of demons. But I understood him, and he was someone that I think a lot of people misunderstood.
That’s really sad, not only that she lost him but also that she doesn’t think she’s going to find love again. My mom always says “if you think you can or you think you can’t you’re probably right.” (I just googled that and it’s a paraphrase of a quote from Henry Ford.)
People also includes quotes from an earlier interview they did with Ricki, including the part where she wanted to save Christian from his mental illness. She said “He wasn’t stable, and he was so fragile, but I was still in love with him, so there was something romantic about it. I wanted to save him.”
She’s still so hung up on that relationship. I don’t believe in “soul mates” nor do I consider love some magical occurrence that only happens once. We have so many options for meeting people now, finding someone to love takes work and also requires that you’re vulnerable and open to it. Despite what she says it doesn’t sound like Ricki is open to finding someone. She still sounds heartbroken to have lost Christian. That’s understandable, some heartbreak stays with us, and not everyone needs or wants a partner.
Ricki is promoting her new documentary, Weed the People, about medical marijuana. She opened so many people’s eyes with The Business of Being Born and I hope this film is a success for her.
With her Weed The People film partner, Abby Epstein.
photos credit: WENN
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